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me and my friend...i need help...?

i do have a friend, we are both girls, but i think she is crossing the line, she is a straight girl too okay, but i just can't take it when she is too caring, like she was a boyfriend, i mean sometime, she'll pay for my food which i don't like because i have my own money, she'll buy me a jewelry but not meant as a friendship jewelry because she doesn't have one, she'll buy me food and doesn't let me pay for it, she'll be calling me just to ask if how am i even though we have seen each other the whole day, she even made a blog user name with combination of both of our names (and i think only couples should do it). she once had a friend before whom pave way for a distance since her friend's boyfriend told her friend to distance herself to this girl whom i am talking about. i actually want my friends to be caring, concerned, but don't you think she crossed the borderline? also, i dunno how am i going to say this but i hate those gestures totally. will you help me to? thanks!

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she just wants hot lesbian action, like most skanks.
usually girls are affectionate like that sometimes, but just tell her that it makes u not so comfy...or just end ya friendship
You are right, she has crossed the line. Now if you don't like it, you either need to be willing to stand up to her (possibly losing her friendship, which would probably be ok), or enlist the help of an adult who can talk to her with you and help her see how her behavior goes beyond the boundaries of normal friendship. It's a little creepy, huh?
If you don't like the way she expresses herself, then you don't want to be her friend. It happens.
ok shes just being nice to you. get over it.
wow, wow! i was in the same situation! i just didn't talk to her as much for a little while & let her make other friends. it will work, but it may take some time.
I went through something very similar to what you're going through. My friend REFUTED that she was gay... until AFTER high school... then she came out. Sounds like that's the case here, too. Maybe you should just come out and ask her... don't be condescending about it. My friend and I got along great afterwards, once she started getting girlfriends that weird attention stopped and we got along well.
well it is a kind gesture, but i do reckon it is going ova the line or ova the top paying 4 everyting, its like shes sucking up to ya.
That calls for serious help. You can always tell her straight in the face that you're a matured girl and you can take care of yourself. I'm not sure how that will turn out, depends on the other person's way of reacting. Or you can just write a note or email, which I personally don't like because I feel that if you want to tell someone something important (whether good/bad) it should be face to face. Or you can talk to her parents and let her parents tell here, which I wouldn't do that either. Oh well. Good luck... it's a tough situation >.<
talk to her and let her know that she is making you uncomfortable. tell her not to do so much for you because you feel like your taking advantage of her...other than that i really dont see what she's doing wrong..she seems like she just likes to give to people...some people are just like that..
Sounds like a little too much. She could be overcompensating for being insecure about herself. But regardless of the reason behind it, if it bothers you, talk to her about it? She probably doesn't realize her behavior is almost controlling-stalker-ish.
This girl sounds AWESOME! But if it's really annoying to you, you should probably be upfront and tell her why it's annoying to you. Maybe she'll change, and if she doesn't, well there's probably many more friends in the ocean.
well ask her if she is like your boyfriend or something but try to make it sound like a joke
Talk to her privately. Tell her you like her as a friend, but feel embarrassed by all the gifts and favors. Tell her that you appreciate them, but they aren't necessary. You'll still be her friend without all the gifts.
TELL HER NICELY BUT FIRMLY YOU NEED A LITTLE SPACE!! THAT YOUR NOT COMFORTABLR WITH THE WAY SHE ACTS TOWARD YOU. SPEAK NOW!!!! OR YOU WILL BE ASKING STUFF LIKE THIS YOUR WHOLE LIFE. GOOD LUCK!!!
Well, if you have a problem with her paying for things when you already have your own money, just speak up and tell her so. If she's that caring as you say she is, then I'm pretty sure she'll understand. Maybe she's actually NOT straight and probably doesn't even realize that what she's doing is freaking you out. The best thing you could possibly do is just talk to her about it. Despite that, you still seem to appreciate her friendship, and I'll tell you right now: caring people are hard to find. If you still want to keep her as a friend though, just talk to her. Being honest is the best thing to do.
well it is though question. i think she really loves your company and she wants you to be a friend with her forever. she might not want what happened to her old friend to happen with the both of you. try to tell her what you feel, though it might hurt her. or you can write it on a letter rather than slapping it to her face. anyhow, a good relationship, whatever relationship, needs to have a two way street, a give and take. she might also want to give honor to your goodness as a friend. making distance is a way where she can come to her senses that "what's wrong?" with both of you.
Hey your not alone! Get that she thinks your great and perhaps she does not have anyone else she is close with and so she leans on you a bit. Understand that sometimes people think they have to buy others things or they simply can and enjoy doing so. I had a real hard time with my mate at first cause she was too nice to me and no one had ever been so loving-kind-giving and true hearted as she is my greates love because she had it to give and I was a person who would receive it and after I realized that she was too nice-when in fact she was more wonderful than I could have ever known. If she is stright then it is a friendly admoration she has for you and you make her life better just by being you-really! My guess is that she really only thinks and acts in loving ways which is odd for many of us but a real gift-I tell you what. And remember that when we refuse to allow others to give to us (recieve), we take from them the gift of giving. Some people simply like to share if they have it, and they do so with joy, sharing their path. Good luck and have more fun... "Heartily know When half-gods go The gods arrive."--Emerson. Bc
that must be awkward
my friend used to be like this... i thnk becuase she said i would ge raped without being protected and i was popular so she always tried doing nice stuff and everything... but we arent friends any more.. so try to get rid of her because she will drive you insane soon!